[me? when i disappoint someone]

[bf told me]

iodineispurple submitted:I have this crush of mine. we are actually classmates in some subjects and i admit we’re somehow close. He has a feelings for my close friend though he has a girlfriend. and the fact is his ex was my friend’s elder sister. i just couldn’t keep falling to him for he is the kind of guy that is so sweet. I think he has a hint that i like him. and he keeps hitting on me too, though it’s not clear. 

mY repLy:

This guy seems involved with a lot of people you know…people that are actually close to you. Think before you jump into this kind of situation… try to think how it ended up with the other girls that he had “something” with. Did it actually go somewhere, did he just date them once and then went to another?, or is he the type of guy that just wants everyone to like him and that maybe he is hitting on everyone. You said he had feelings for your close friend even if he had a girlfriend….what does this make him look like?…player? or is he just misunderstood. is he playing you? or is his actions towards you (hinting) is just misunderstood.

staypozitive:

• i act beyond weird around you.
• i could talk about anything with you.
• i stuff my face with food in front of you.
• i sing around you.
• i tell you many tmi’s.
• i call you mean nicknames.

Is there such a thing?

Well based on what my followers submitted, my friends’ stories, as well as personal experience from past relationships…Yes…there is a bad side when it comes to love…it’s when you start loving someone TOO much.

This means that your love just overpowers the other, it just takes up the whole space and doesnt even leave a breathing room.

It’s when you start getting jealous over stuff you shouldnt be jealous about. Like him talking to another girl, or smiling to a stranger. 

When you get mad because your friend knew something about him and you didnt.

When he fails to tell you something he did during the day because you feel that you should know everything that had happened, is happening or will happen to him.

When you start checking his messages secretly, trying to see if he’s texting other people.(havent done this before but based on my friends experience…this is never a good thing…guys/girls…dont dont dont dont ever do this)

When you start asking too much questions…the where…the who…and the why.

where did you go today. who did you go with…why didnt you invite me/tell me.

when you constantly remind him “youre mine,” “im your girlfriend/boyfriend,” “I have the right to know first”…and anything similar to that….(it maybe sweet but too much reminding will be annoying).

we all need space, even if we’re in a relationship. there’s still boundaries we need to keep.

Asking too much questions and getting too involved in each others life is not a good thing. We need to respect each others privacy and learn how to trust. 

Trust is the key word. It’s not something you just tell your partner …“I trust you“….it’s an action that is required to keep the relationship strong.

Once you doubt the other person he/she may get tired of you. 

If you break the other person’s trust… you can never gain it back 100%. Even how hard you try, there’s always a part of them that will remember the thing you did in the past…and worry that maybe you’ll do the same thing again.

Love is complicated. Yes, it’s the happiest thing when it enters your life…but you need to take care of it. It’s like a plant you need to water. If you water it too much it will die, if you water it less, it’ll also die. You need to water it just enough to let it grow:)

xoxoxo,

HMA

heymissawesome:)  im erin hynch  i am in grade 7 in collegiate juniour in southafrica:)  its rockin here with the amazing beaches:)  im going to pearson high next year and realy nervouse:)  i’ve got lots of cool friends that help me through the thick timzz:)  but the one that realy gets me through life is bronwyn weeks shes the most amazing person in the world..not to mention and awesome drawer and and an excellent singer with an amazing personallity:) i realy love the life quoets on your blog  and i think that we should all dance our own dance in life and make our own moves and put them together to see the hole thing.   ex oh ex oh   erin hynch:)

thanks for this message erin! it’s so sweet! It’s amazing how I meet a lot of people from different parts of the world through my tumblr. I wish I could visit south africa one day. Goodluck in highschool!:)

submitted:

You know there’s a “thing” in my school which I won’t say “it’s” name, so everyone hates her and she believes she is the best but she is… well… in a non offensive thing… she is a left 0… So the one day I saw her profile pic (which I think it was for me) and it was a black mark pic (you know the one that is like and image and then a big text and then down a little description) well, it said:

Jealous? Feeling Envy?

-YOU know why? Because I’m SO horny, people love me and I’m a better person than you GURL!

And then I was like JElous? Feeling Envy? ME? Of YOU? Ha’ tell me where over pluto where “things” of your type are considered NORMAL.

Never get along with “things” like that, we have to be nice with the most needed ones and it seems not only with money but REAL love and NOT IMAGINARY friends ;) …

my reply:

dont be bothered by her. as a matter of fact dont even mind her…coz if she sees that nobody cares…she’ll stop and realize that no body gets affected of whatever she is doing.

askanord submitted:

Do you believe that it is possible to have a strong connection with someone instantly? If you don’t then this isn’t something for you to read unless you like to hear a sort of romance story. This past year has been full of twists and turns for me. Some good, some bad, some things I shouldn’t have had to dealt with, some things that were worth it.

You see, a year and a half ago I became friends with someone. I won’t use her actual name, for this story though. She quickly became one of my best friends. After two months or so, I finally asked her out and she became my first girlfriend. That was when the once straight path I walked on started to shape it’s turns and corners. My first kiss was on November 26th, 2010. That day made me so happy. 

But within a month of the relationship she had kissed another guy. ..Her excuse was that I didn’t show I cared enough. What she didn’t know was that I never really knew how to since it was my first relationship. Not only that, but she wasn’t exactly an open book, so she wasn’t exactly nice, but not exactly mean either. Naturally it was difficult for me to show how to care under the circumstances. So we broke up. I was furious and tried to bottle all the sadness in me. Twelve days later, we got back together. Foolish of me, i’m sure. But every decides a second chance, no? Anyway, we both couldn’t stop thinking of each other during those twelve days. I became the good guy who acted as if it were nothing. But deep down it hurt, and it still does. So I try not to think of it. 

Another two months passed by, and we had said those magically three words on January 14th, 2011, “I love you”. The first two months were really rocky, but after the day we said those three words, things seemed to get better. Sure we’ve had arguments and have “broken up”, but she was worth at the time. The months moved on and I graduated high school. That summer we saw each other almost every single day, she loved it. I loved to make her happy. When she was happy, so was I. 

But then, she was going into her senior year, I turned 18, and we both got jobs. She worked three days out of the week, and I was putting anywhere from 20-40 hours a week. Our anniversary came up. God damn we were so happy, tears rolled down both our eyes. We were strongly reassured that we really loved each other. Soon though, we went from seeing each other 6-7 days out of the week to 3-5. It wasn’t that bad. She however, was a little upset. For her it was always all or nothing. I always gave it my all and still try to. Then our schedules ended up not working well together and I started college. Now we only see each other once or twice a week. For me, I see it as spend whatever time we can get, make the best out of it, and be thankful for her. My girlfriend? Not so much. Don’t get me wrong, she was/is truly a nice person, she has always made up for her wrongs.

But our arguments only happened more and more often. She had no one else, just me. No friends because they were sleazy and left her. Just  her family and boyfriend, me. So instead of calling it off with her, I always chose to stay, partially because I love her, partially because I know what it’s like only having your family. It hurts enough to bring you to tears. I couldn’t leave someone on their own. I loved her and still do, except to me it wasn’t starting to matter if I stayed in a relationship with her or not. If she left me, that would have been her decision and I could have moved on with little worries. If she stayed, I could continue to try and make her happy as she said I did every day, and both of us could continue to work at the relationship.

Recently, we’ve had some pretty nasty arguments. It almost permanently ended twice. The first time she broke up with me because I cursed at her and we didn’t see each enough, or at least enough for her. She said it was wrong that I cursed at her but it was okay if she did it. It was wrong of me, but i explained to her that it’s wrong of her as well since she didn’t like it. The second time we got into a horrible argument, she ended up calling me something I was called throughout high school where I was tormented almost every day. It was the final straw with me. Then why am I still with her, you might ask? Pity is one word.

The day after that argument I texted her mom and said I was going to pick up my stuff. My girlfriend of sorts and I were supposed to go to a Rise Against concert that day.  My girlfriend asked me to go, I said “No. You called me something that I was called every day. That hurt. More than you know. Especially since it was from you.” So she apologized. And I kept saying no. She begged me to go because she wanted to be with me. Her mom had told me if I didn’t go with her, her daughter couldn’t go. Now that would suck not being able to go to a concert, so I was nice about it. So I said I’d go. Back into a relationship we went.

After finally realizing what had really happened, she really wants to work at the relationship. I’m pretty fed up with the crap that had happened and my tolerance went from abnormally high, to less than average. Every day I remind myself that I do actually love her, but now I am seriously having doubts in what to do. So I have chosen to stay with her. Not because I want to and not because I have to. Some of you may be thinking by now “Why won’t you just give up?”. Well, I don’t give up easily, and I hate hurting people after knowing what it’s like. 

I recently bought her a necklace for the famous and infamous Valentine’s Day. But even so, I’ve begun to think that once she graduates high school, it’ll go down from there. I promised to myself that the next bad argument I would truly be done. Hopefully I will keep that promise to myself. Hopefully that argument may not come. As you can tell, I’m very confused on what to do. 

My mom once told me “If you ever meet someone that just completely rocks your world, or stuns you through happiness, pick them. Even if you’re in a relationship.” I shrugged it off because I thought it was horrible advice. But I didn’t think how good of advice that just might be once you go through a relationship. This is where the real predicament begins, to which I first said at the beginning of all this writing. I met someone online. There was an instant and strong connection. It was over a random chat. We were curious how the other looked. She said I was cute and when I saw her, I could only think: “Wow… she’s absolutely beautiful.” 

She made me extremely happy that night. Her name was Tayler and boy did she stun me through happiness. She had said that I made her just as happy. I was ready to meet her in person. Just one thing though: she lives in the United Kingdom and I live, well, here in the U.S.A. That just made things suck so much worse. It was like “Here is this lovely, beautiful, kind person who has made me so happy in just an hour. But no, you can’t have her.”

Tayler had told me she wished we lived closer, because if we did she would want to be with me. We both got the feeling that if we did actually meet each other, we’d stay together for a long, long, long time. It was such a strong connection, one that is rare among humanity in its whole. I had asked if we could continue talking more after the chat, but she had told me this: “I don’t know… feel like… it would make things harder…” so I had responded with: “But I really like you…” She responded with this: ” I know… and I really like you… and that’s why… i think.. the distance would kill us…” The conversation went on for a bit longer, she admitted that she really wanted to, but didn’t think she could do it. 

So that night I searched and searched on Facebook for her. Pathetic it might sound, but if you had had the same strength of connection and instantly falling for someone, you would probably do the same. Finally I found her. I debated for two days if I should add her. After arguing with myself, that’s exactly what I did: added her. There has been no response yet, but I still have my hopes kept up high.

Some of you must think how stupid, hopeless I am, and that I should give up. Some of you must think I’m scummy for talking to Tayler while still dating my current girlfriend. Some of you may understand where I’m coming from. What do I think? Well, I’m not too sure. I’ve been told miracles can happen through love, I’ve asked myself time and time again if I should give up, if I’m stupid for this, if I’m brave for doing this. But the biggest question of all: If I was given the chance to be Tayler’s boyfriend, would I be able to leave my current girlfriend for her and feel okay? Or would I be able to break someone’s heart to for once be selfish? But here is my question for all of the readers: What would you do?

©Copyright - by Jeannette Gardner (December, 2007)

A Story of Love Destined to Be!

I want to share this story to give others hope that it’s never too late to find true love!  I hope my story will inspire many others to not give up. I was fifty-one when I found my “soul mate”!

This is a ‘true story’ about how I met my Husband on a dating site on the Internet. It’s the unbelievable story behind it that’s truly amazing of fate and destiny!

Years ago I used to hang out at a bar called Club Palomino when a band called “ Cheyenne ” played, because I was crazy about the guitarist. I’d drag my friends along and dance, making eyes up at him the whole time. I was trying to work up the courage to talk to the guy, but he was always with this one blonde girl, so I constantly chickened out. The club eventually closed down, and that era kind of came to an end.

A few years later I got married, which was a mistake, and ended in divorce. When I wanted to get back into the romantic market, a friend told me I should try internet dating. I went out with a few men, but didn’t click with any of them, and sort of gave up. Then one day I got an email from an interesting guy; we starting talking regularly online and found that we had a lot in common. I told him I used to hang out at Club Palomino about fifteen years ago, and he said his band used to play there. I was like, “Yeah, right,” so he sent me a photo titled, “ Cheyenne ”. I freaked! This was the guitarist from my favourite band!

We decided to meet up, and the minute we saw each other we just started laughing. He remembered watching me dancing at the club when he was onstage. It was a strange sensation to be on a date with someone I’d had such a huge crush on when I was younger – exciting and familiar at the same time.

Turns out he had been married to the blonde girl for eight years, but they went through a brutal divorce. He told me that she was “bad news” and that I should have approached him the first time I saw him at the club. It’s funny how life is – I guess it just wasn’t meant to be back then. We’ve been together since 2003, and got married in 2009. Life is great; we’re always laughing and playing music together.

The cherry on top of this amazing coincidence? We unknowingly bought an apartment opposite the online dating site’s office. The stars have definitely aligned!

sometimes i think there’s something wrong with me. when a guy likes me and trying to know me (texting everyday, talking with me in every chance he gets, etc) i will flatter inside secretly but i never want to show any feeling for him. I always try to hide my feelings. therefore, no one knows that actually i kinda like the guy. I think it’s because my friends always tease us. it makes me really embarrassed so i avoid to show any kind of feeling to guys. And this things has happened for twice and every time the guy gave up on me, i feel so lost and stupid but i can’t help to not doing it again. The last guy had tried with me for 8 months and i think I’ve fallen for him (but never showing it) ,then suddenly he stopped talking to me and then few months later i heard he was with another girl. :(

what do u think about this? any advise? i really think it’s embarrassing to express my feeling to someone. am i too immature? or i just don’t really like him?

My reply:

If you want a relationship you have to do your part to. this means you also have to express your feelings. Guys, well they also have a hard time expressing their love…confessing their feelings. it takes them as much guts as us. SO next time when a guy shows his love for you…know that it did take them guts. It maybe tough for you to “man” up and express what you feel but this is just the way you can do to show you like the guy back. Dont be embarrass…coz taking a risk is what it takes to begin a “love story.” It’s not immature…nothing immature about this. Trust me girl, you just need to jump in and let it all out. I know whaen it comes to love…especially true love… its an all or nothing…its either youre in or out. What happened to me before was that I had a bestfriend…guy friend… I fell in love with him and it took me a ton of guts to finally tell him i like him…but its all worth it coz it turns out he likes me too. it was risky what i did…and i prepared myself for the worst(if it doesnt turn out the way i want)….but i thought to myself this is better then keeping it in and being bothered my thoughts of “what if…what if i did it…what if i confessed…what if….” 

LOVE TAKES GUTS.THATS WHY IS CALLED “FALLING” IN LOVE. 

letitlove submitted:

Hey, Im not good with things like these, but I want to get it off my chest c: I dont know what I hope to accomplish from this.. but maybe itll make sense..

So theres this guy.. a cute boy with sweet brown eyes and adorable brown hair that you just wanna mess up c: He’s my best friend, well one of them. We grew up together. We used to date when we were little and more innocent, but when we broke up he was heart broken and so we stopped talking. This lead to us not talking for maybe 3 years? I started talking to him in maybe 8th or 9th grade? [Im a sophmore now] Later on I discovered he had a girlfriend and it didnt really bother me, I was cool with it because he was happy. As time went on we’d talk here and there but not much, until we were hit with a hurricane. His mom had to work and so he was alone at home, thats when my mom suggested he stay with us, and so he did. It was really nice because I hadnt hung out with him in ages c: We were hanging out like nothing had changed, except he kept touching me [and no, not like that xD] he would just keep tickling me, or poking me. He told me he still liked me too. Im a shy and stubborn girl so I wouldnt admit how I felt. So he put his forehead to mine and looked me straight in the eyes and said “If you dont like me, than why do you have that cute shy grin on your face.” I went numb, and my cheeks heated up so I looked down and turned away making up some excuse xD This is the part that had made me open my eyes to what I was holding back. Later on, we all camped out in my moms room with him sleeping on the floor and me in my moms bed. It was cute. We were both facing the tv, and I had my arm dangling off the bed, hoping, maybe, he’d grab it and just hold it, but I knew my luck wasnt that grand. Until I felt warmth and a gentle rubbing on my thumb, so I looked down to see him nonchalantly holding my hand and rubbing my thumb while watching tv. I got blushie again and turned away. The next day we went outside to see the damage and I found a spider and shreaked; he was about to kill it for me but I stopped him because although they scare me, nothing deserves to die. Than he started to poke me and ask me if I liked him, so I started to walk away and he followed me which soon lead us to running around the car just for him to grab and tickle me. Later on he had to go and so I was sad but I smiled as always and said my goodbyes. that was almost a year ago. After that he would IM on facebook constantly or text me all the time c: Than slowly our conversations would die down to only talking here and there to barley talking at all.. Next thing I know, maybe  aweek or two ago, he broke up with his girlfriend. I decided to text him just to help comfort him and than we started to talk again. Until two days later when they got back together. Our conversations slowed down to nothing at all and here we are now. Not talking. I dont even think its hid girlfriend making him stop.. I think he is on his own.. I dont know, maybe he likes me more than Im thinking and he doesnt want to hurt his girlfriend so he stays away from me? Or maybe he just doesnt care as much as I thought and so he ignores me?

But when Im with him.. oh boy.. I get butterflies, and I blush so much, and he makes me smile and laugh all the time.. Its just so nice.. Even just watching tv with him is so perfect just because hes there.. but when hes gone.. I get so depressed, and I miss him so much. With other guy friends, I dont care much, but with him.. Its different.

I think I may be in love with my best friend..

Thank you for reading c:

-Mars ♥

How does it feel like when your future seem so unclear to you; when you have a couple of months left…or even less.

How does it feel like waking up everyday, worried that it may be your last?

How does it feel like when you start putting check marks in that bucket list you made?

Yes it sucks at first but then every time the sun sets, you start to appreciate and be thankful that you’ve been given yet another day to enjoy life andto be with your close friends and family. 

When the future seems unsure, every minute counts, and the people you choose to spend those minutes with matters. 

Life is short, learn to appreciate everything that happens, including the bad moments. 

<3 H