Anonymous (evabartholome@web.de) submitted:

Well, there is this guy in my class and I love him since 2-3 years already. At first he was with many girls and he also told me he liked me (I mean, he told me I was pretty, funny, nice and stuff), but that is ca. 2 years ago now so I don’t think he still thinks that. But well, we got really good friends and he told me many things like one time he told me he was in love with a girl he didn’t see for 2 years or so and he told me a lot about her and I was kinda “helping” him .. (but now he’s not in love with her anymore)

And also there was this girl, she was kinda mean to me and once me, my friends and him talked and when one of my friends asked if we like that girl he said no and they asked like why and he was like “cause she’s mean to ..” (me)

So well, he told me lots of stuff and we were very good friends and stuff but I loved him. Actually once I even sent him an e-mail saying “I love you” but he didn’t ever talked about that. (And it was about half a year after I met him, so ..) 

Well, all in all I really helped him a lot, talked to him when he needed somebody and stuff but he hurted me a lot too. But also he told some one who told one of my friends that he likes me. (Not that long time ago)

Okay, now I’m still in love with him but we don’t really talk and it’s not like before that he tells me about his problems and he also told some of his friends he’s not in love with any one right now but he’s really nice to me and once there was this party and you could play games and stuff and he invited me to play with him and his friends ..

I’m really scared to tell him ‘cause first I’m scared he doesn’t like me back and second I’m scared it’ll get us apart or something .. actually I want to tell him but I don’t even know how ‘cause I’m very shy and stuff ..

But (sorry, it’s getting kinda long :D) I have good grades in school so many people only like me because of that but he gives me the feeling like I’m great not because of my good grades but because of myself .. (‘cause he asked me something in homework and then suddenly he just said “oh, doesn’t matter, ” and then started another topic)

Well, that was my story and I don’t know if a story like that could get any advice but I just wanted to share and maybe you have an advice anyway? ;D

(And sorry for being so unorganized in this text :D)

Uh, yes, I just wondered what country you come from? ;D

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Heymissawesome: Im from the Philippines:)

Well a bit of advice, since youre shy and a bit worried  about the outcome when you, its better to just hang out with this guy first. I know you know and love him for three years, but you didnt really give me enough details to know the kind of relationship you have with him. DO you hang a lot nowadays. He obviously sees you as a trustworthy person because he’s able to open up. Im just afraid that you are friendzoned with him. One, you said i love u and he didnt even reply even if he had the chance to. I know your friend told u he likes you but how do you know it for sure when he  didnt really tell you directly. its better to hear it personally than from other people. SO hang out with him first try to see if he;s dropping big hints. Some guys flirt and its obvious. DOes he do sweet stuff with you?

Anyways keep me updated.

reverence-for-fallen-trees submitted:

hey:) hahahah i know this a bit weird, well yeah it is weird. but idk, you know how you wish you could tell your friends and crap about all this stuff but then you realize that your friends are so close to you that you can’t really share this type of stuff? and that your other friends aren’t close enough? yeah…yeah that’s how it is so umm…THANKS FOR READING <3 i guess it’s like a bit of a diary? but that’d be rude to say, so scratch that :P. anyways, as a sort of background, i guess, i’m a sophmore who has never gone out with anyone before, but it’s not a big deal or anything, because most of my friends haven’t either…though they’re starting to, but i mean my school’s really small, and it’s a nerdy school and in my grade there aren’t many asians, and the asian that i liked went and is still going out with my friend so…yeah there’s no one. i usually help ppl that like one another to go out, but i guess i’m just a hypocrite cuz i haven’t done gone out but i’ve read a lot of mangas? yeah…i’m lame, i know. people usually think me as an innocent nice, smart asian that’s super friendly. and in my school everyone knows everyone, so yeah, we’re a family. HOWEVER. there was this guy that i used to like…let’s call him….jun, yeah that sounds good. he’s two years older than me , super duper smart, like top 10 smart, but still super cool and nice, like a kpop idol? idks, but he just like…THE COOLEST PERSON EVER <-understatement. anywho, i didn’t really know him though…the first time i heard of him was from my friend…whom he liked. she thought that he was a bit creepy (but i mean he liked her, and no he didn’t stalk her or anything, she’s just a really shy person). anyways, so i started paying more attention to him from the time when she pointed him out…and then i started to like him (why? i don’t really know…). my friend decided to do something with this weird relationship with me and him that he didn’t even know about, so she decided that if i became friends with the guy she liked (3 years older than us…old? yah i know.) and introduced her, then she would do the same. BUT SHE ACTUALLY DID IT. and while i was embarrassing myself infront of the seniors, she (of course) became good friends with him without any creepiness going on or anything. well, that was just her nature, she could become friends with anyone without getting hated or anything. anyways, well let’s just say that it didn’t go well…he obviously already knew, and that was fine, but then i found out that my friend reminded him of his ex crush that left the school, and there from came a weird nostalgic crush on my friend. hahahah….she didn’t like him. at all. well actually she kind of hated him (why? i don’t know…maybe it’s because he called me creepy? (p.s. there was no sarcasm in that, it was just a not-really-sure statement/quiestion. (p.s. i don’t use sarcasm, and no that was not sarcasm in that non sarcastic sentence)). well anyways, moving on, thereforth came yet another person, in the same grade, but this guy was a bit..mysterious? he was really smart, i mean like, he was a genious. but he wasn’t a nerd, oh nonononono, he looked really laid back and i mean…HIS BACKPACK WAS ALWAYS EMPTY. like no binders or textbooks or anything, and i usually just gaped at it like…HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE? i mean, doesn’t his teachers give binder checks? and yet, he was the smartest kid in his grade, probably in the whole school, too. he was a bit of a loner though, i mean he had friends, and yes they were indeed “cool” friends, but he didn’t really talk much and he always kept his thoughts inside. and yet, i always talked to him (more like i went to his locker after the last class every other day because it was on the way down to mine), and then one day his friends started spreading rumors. yes. those stupid rumors…they started teasing him about gettting a girlfriend and then they started following me. no not like stalking stlaking, more like seeing me in the hallways and by my locker and calling my name and running away. it was actually quite funny, i was laughing so hard on the first day that my stomach hurt so bad. however, i didn’t like it. i thought that he spread rumors of me liking him, when at that moment i indeed didn’t, i was still liking jun from before, but then it got cleared afterwards… like during the summer near the start of a new school year…and people were like NO YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE IGNORED HIM. HE LIKED YOU. and then i was like…what? yeah that’s right…even though I’D NEVER ADMIT IT TO ANYONE THAT KNEW OF THIS STORY or actually knew both me and him, yeah i liked him. just an ounce. perhaps more than an ounce…i didn’t really like thinking about it…hahah yeah i know, i’m lame. so anyways, it’s the start of a new school year right? and the freshman class is full of asians, like it looks like some bomb blew off, and instead of fire and such, a bunch of asians came…and yeah, they were cool. my class was pretty lame, and the seniors from last year were really cool, so maybe they were just replacing them? idks, but it didn’t really matter, cuz i don’t like ppl younger than me. i don’t even know why. HOWEVERRRRRRRR, right now (yeps this is present present day now and yeah i know, that was a really long introduction.) i really like this guy, but he’s 6 six years my senior. yeah, he’s a senior in college. but…i don’t know what to do. i mean, i can’t talk to him everyday, nor call him, nor text him, nor keep listening to the songs he records, because i don’t wanna be thought of creepy. and i mean…he’s old…like no offense, and i know that he’s never had a girlfriend and he’s super innocent and cute and all (even though there’s a lot of girls that like him <- argh.) but i don’t think i should convey my feelings to him cuz…then what if he thinks i’m weird and creepy? and just ignores me forever. he’s even told me that he thinks he’s a bad person because he ignored girls that really liked him, and that made him a jerk. (he has super cute thoughts). and i’m just like ….crap. hahahah, that’s it for now! thanks for reading:)

Heymissawesome: Thanks for sharing!

Distressed (Kenzielong29@yahoo.com) submitted:

My story? I’m a model an I hate it. I’m under constant pressure to be perfect clear skin tiny waste and I’m miserable I want to stop just quit and get control of my life but my parents would hate me so instead my day is filled with uncomfortable shoes exercising and no food. I’m not aloud hardly anything on my diet! So that’s my story what I do. Not who I am though. Right now I’m just a girl over worked and under fed. Just as miserable as possible.

heyyogurl submitted:

He is the best thing ever happened to me. I feel safe in his arms, my stomach is full of butterflyes when I see him and i know i can count on him no matter what. We see each other every day, we hang out and just feel good. We can talk hours and days without stopping. He knows me the most and brings out the best in me. He’s there for me and I’m here for him. He’s the only one I can count on in this universe, and he can count on me too. Sometimes we fight, like everyone does, but he’s so cute when he’s angry :3. I thought I’m not in love until i read a quote saying: „You know you’re in love when you have to convince yourself that you’re not.” That moment changed everything. I didn’t want to think about this, but the harder you try to forget something, the more you think about it unconsciously. And I die a little inside everytime when he talks about other girls. They are just so perfect. Not like me. I wanted to tell him all my secrets, but he became one of them instead. I’m staying in the middle of a desert. I’m waiting for the nevercoming. Sometimes I wish my heart would just stop beating. Then maybe it wouldn’t hurt as much. I would tell him my feelings, but I’m worried of what he would say. So I’ll try to act normal, I’ll try to hide all the feelings, I’ll try to fake a smile and be what I ever was…his best friend.

Heymissawesome: THIS IS JUST SO BEAUTIFUL!!!! I CAN RELATE SO MUCH!

foolalas submitted:

So there’s this guy at my school that I started talking to this year because of our classes that we have together. We started talking in science when we sa next to each other and also in ohter classes too. I began to like him a little bit but when he gave me his Skype and oovoo username (Oovoo is like Skype if you didnt know) we began talking and I started to fall for him. He was sweet, kind, just plain old nice, and on top of that he was just as tall as me (which is a must for me).  He talked almost everyday and for at lest an hour. He was really shy around me at school and when we talked it was awkward… but a cute kind of awkward, you know? I thought that he HAD to like me back, I mean, we had stayed up until the early hours of the morning just talking about anything and everything. It was great until the day before Valentine’s Day.

I had asked him if he had had a crush (for obvious reasons) and he had said no. But on the day before Valentine’s Day, he told me that he had thought about it and realized who he really liked. Now, just imagine some really cute shy guy trying to tell you who he liked. It sounds like something we all want our crushes to ask/tell us. So I braced myself to say ‘yes’ until me said one of my good friends’ name. I felt as if I had just been slapped.

With the words ‘friend zone.’ 

Honestly it felt terrible. That was the worst Valentines Day I’ve ever had. All thanks to someone who was still genuinely sweet and just an all around awesome person. He was oblivious to my sadness until about a week later I had his friend tell him because he pressured me into wanting to. But no… He still liked my friend and even had the nerve to ask me how to get her. We’re still friends and now I claim that I don’t like him but as I’m writing this maybe I do still have feelings for him deep down inside. Eh, he’ll never like me though, so I’ll just wait for someone else to sweep me off my feet. </3

putnotrustinprinces submitted:

Just a story I’d like to share that goes against the whole cliche that two people can’t be friends after a break-up. It has its ups and downs, but it has a happy ending, I promise(:

Back before 5th grade, my school closed and merged with two other schools. I didn’t know it at the time, but this one boy(his code name will be Al) came to our school to get rid of his life at his old school. He was teased for who he was, so he came to a, literally, completely new school. He changed his real attitude so that people wouldn’t treat him like the others did. He wasn’t in my homeroom, so I didn’t really know him ‘til 6th, when he was in my homeroom, and most of my advanced classes. We had SUCH a love/hate relationship that year. I’d always text him and we trusted each other, but we were always taunting one another. He still helped me through this really awkward crush..erm, obsession with this 7th grade friend of mine, and I helped him with a crush he had, and while he still had a hard time opening up to me,  that summer he told me that one reason he was made fun of at his old school was because he dances. I didn’t judge him at all. During that summer and into the fall as well, I liked this other boy(let’s say, Luke). Now, I told Al about Luke and he was trying to help me, but the thing was, Luke liked my one friend(who was going out with my cousin, who was cheating on her..awk) and I tried to help him, and ended up breaking the two up by uncovering my cousin’s misdeeds. But while making my friend free for Luke, I tried to make it look like I didn’t like him still by saying that my friend Al asked me out. Now, at this point, it was October, and Al would randomly be more mean to me and when I asked why, his responses led me to believe he liked me. Along with that, I told my friend and she asked me if he asked me out, would I say yes. I said that I wouldn’t say no… So anyways, when I told Al what I said to Luke, he played it off, and said it was fine. Later that week I was texting Al and wondering what was up with him again. He wound up telling me he liked me and asked me out. Now, this is something I still never told him- I lied. I didn’t know it then, but I lied. The girl who said she liked him back, and yes she’d go out with him, the girl who walked around with him on the playground holding hands and letting him kiss her on the cheek/give her hugs, the girl who responded “I love you too” every time he said/texted it and danced with him at the winter dance, wasn’t really me. It wasn’t what I felt towards him-it was what I felt towards the idea of being in love. So what was the truth? The girl who shared everything with him, her little quirks, her hopes and dreams and ambitions, her deepest fears, her darkest times, her greatest memories, little things that make her happy. And he shared the same. I learned both the light and dark shades of Al, I learned how he adored travel, and loves being able to run super-fast, how he’s won dance competitions before, he was in his elementary school plays and had one best friend there, a girl. This was also when I learned what a big deal his reputation was to him, and about how they(from his old school) used to tease him, and that he still had trouble dealing with that past. Not to mention he’s adopted, and his cousin secretly told me he might actually have siblings in Romania that he’ll never get to grow up with, or possibly even meet.  The more I learned about him and vice-versa, the more I realized what a lie it all was and how guilty I felt. I was using him to try to feed my need to feel loved. So I started to try to back out, slowly, because I knew how much he really cared. And I cared too-just in a different way-and didn’t want him hurt(I also NEEDED him). It started with not fully typing out “I love you(too)” when texting him. Then one day he texted me “I love you” and I…just couldn’t. Maybe ten minutes later I decided on a smiley face. He questioned it, I said I was sorry, but I didn’t love him that way, or like him that way really either. We were together for over 3 months, and you could tell how pissed/hurt/confused he was for the next week. He really had no idea that my “feelings” were getting weaker, so it was just like BAM, I don’t like you. But since during the 1st half of 7th grade he became my trusted confidante, I was slowly crumbling while he wasn’t speaking. It was unofficial, but by maybe two months later, without trying to repair(or bring up) the damage, we were past the first tentative step of getting him to trust me again. We became each other’s confidantes again as I fell for that 7th(now 8th) grade friend again, and he tried to slowly piece his real self together. This year-8th grade, was when we really showed each other how close we were(and when our sibling love strengthened). It was November, and we FINALLY buried the harsh relationship hatchet. He knows that I really do love him like a brother and that’s all that matters now-it’s in the past. But this year brought us a LOT of news about each other. Apparently, Al had been diagnosed with some depressive disorder and the medication he had sometimes made him think about killing himself-and apparently, back in fourth grade(FOURTH GRADE!!!), he had tried. He felt trapped, and he vividly told me exactly how it felt, and every now and then, I got scared because I had felt that way for a while too. We shared our thoughts on being lost, on what would happen if one day, we were just gone, and he told me that all these adults told him his future looked bright, but he was staring at his wall, and it was all he could see in his future, a vast emptiness. At this point I wasn’t feeling scared or lost for myself and he flooded my mind. For not the first time, I wrote a song for him, called Sailboats and Anchors. Because he’d always be a sailboat being pulled out to sea by an uncontrollable breeze, and I’d be his anchor, trying to keep him near the shore. I told him about it, and he thanked me so much for trying to help him get though. That night, he told me he loves me again, but this time as a brother, and I said the same. He really is my brother, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s helped me through my one-time mental breakdown(long story), yet ANOTHER horrid love life situation, parent frustrations, and those “what if I’m not ____ enough?” moments. Our relationship is so deep, and even though we’re going to be going to different High Schools and that goodbye is going to be so freaking hard, we won’t really be saying goodbye ‘cause we’ll always be there for those “till 3am” kind of talks where we just let everything off our chests and become even closer. He’s one of my bests friends, my other brother, and I love him so much it’s not even funny.<3

Just thought I should mention this as well-he is now off his medications and isn’t having any more thoughts that make us cry, and I’m so proud of who he is, and if he reads this, I’m sorry if not all my facts are straight(Sorry Z.A.Y. :/ ) <3

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iodineispurple submitted:I have this crush of mine. we are actually classmates in some subjects and i admit we’re somehow close. He has a feelings for my close friend though he has a girlfriend. and the fact is his ex was my friend’s elder sister. i just couldn’t keep falling to him for he is the kind of guy that is so sweet. I think he has a hint that i like him. and he keeps hitting on me too, though it’s not clear. 

mY repLy:

This guy seems involved with a lot of people you know…people that are actually close to you. Think before you jump into this kind of situation… try to think how it ended up with the other girls that he had “something” with. Did it actually go somewhere, did he just date them once and then went to another?, or is he the type of guy that just wants everyone to like him and that maybe he is hitting on everyone. You said he had feelings for your close friend even if he had a girlfriend….what does this make him look like?…player? or is he just misunderstood. is he playing you? or is his actions towards you (hinting) is just misunderstood.

staypozitive:

• i act beyond weird around you.
• i could talk about anything with you.
• i stuff my face with food in front of you.
• i sing around you.
• i tell you many tmi’s.
• i call you mean nicknames.

Is there such a thing?

Well based on what my followers submitted, my friends’ stories, as well as personal experience from past relationships…Yes…there is a bad side when it comes to love…it’s when you start loving someone TOO much.

This means that your love just overpowers the other, it just takes up the whole space and doesnt even leave a breathing room.

It’s when you start getting jealous over stuff you shouldnt be jealous about. Like him talking to another girl, or smiling to a stranger. 

When you get mad because your friend knew something about him and you didnt.

When he fails to tell you something he did during the day because you feel that you should know everything that had happened, is happening or will happen to him.

When you start checking his messages secretly, trying to see if he’s texting other people.(havent done this before but based on my friends experience…this is never a good thing…guys/girls…dont dont dont dont ever do this)

When you start asking too much questions…the where…the who…and the why.

where did you go today. who did you go with…why didnt you invite me/tell me.

when you constantly remind him “youre mine,” “im your girlfriend/boyfriend,” “I have the right to know first”…and anything similar to that….(it maybe sweet but too much reminding will be annoying).

we all need space, even if we’re in a relationship. there’s still boundaries we need to keep.

Asking too much questions and getting too involved in each others life is not a good thing. We need to respect each others privacy and learn how to trust. 

Trust is the key word. It’s not something you just tell your partner …“I trust you“….it’s an action that is required to keep the relationship strong.

Once you doubt the other person he/she may get tired of you. 

If you break the other person’s trust… you can never gain it back 100%. Even how hard you try, there’s always a part of them that will remember the thing you did in the past…and worry that maybe you’ll do the same thing again.

Love is complicated. Yes, it’s the happiest thing when it enters your life…but you need to take care of it. It’s like a plant you need to water. If you water it too much it will die, if you water it less, it’ll also die. You need to water it just enough to let it grow:)

xoxoxo,

HMA

heymissawesome:)  im erin hynch  i am in grade 7 in collegiate juniour in southafrica:)  its rockin here with the amazing beaches:)  im going to pearson high next year and realy nervouse:)  i’ve got lots of cool friends that help me through the thick timzz:)  but the one that realy gets me through life is bronwyn weeks shes the most amazing person in the world..not to mention and awesome drawer and and an excellent singer with an amazing personallity:) i realy love the life quoets on your blog  and i think that we should all dance our own dance in life and make our own moves and put them together to see the hole thing.   ex oh ex oh   erin hynch:)

thanks for this message erin! it’s so sweet! It’s amazing how I meet a lot of people from different parts of the world through my tumblr. I wish I could visit south africa one day. Goodluck in highschool!:)