[bf told me]

iodineispurple submitted:I have this crush of mine. we are actually classmates in some subjects and i admit we’re somehow close. He has a feelings for my close friend though he has a girlfriend. and the fact is his ex was my friend’s elder sister. i just couldn’t keep falling to him for he is the kind of guy that is so sweet. I think he has a hint that i like him. and he keeps hitting on me too, though it’s not clear. 

mY repLy:

This guy seems involved with a lot of people you know…people that are actually close to you. Think before you jump into this kind of situation… try to think how it ended up with the other girls that he had “something” with. Did it actually go somewhere, did he just date them once and then went to another?, or is he the type of guy that just wants everyone to like him and that maybe he is hitting on everyone. You said he had feelings for your close friend even if he had a girlfriend….what does this make him look like?…player? or is he just misunderstood. is he playing you? or is his actions towards you (hinting) is just misunderstood.

staypozitive:

• i act beyond weird around you.
• i could talk about anything with you.
• i stuff my face with food in front of you.
• i sing around you.
• i tell you many tmi’s.
• i call you mean nicknames.

Is there such a thing?

Well based on what my followers submitted, my friends’ stories, as well as personal experience from past relationships…Yes…there is a bad side when it comes to love…it’s when you start loving someone TOO much.

This means that your love just overpowers the other, it just takes up the whole space and doesnt even leave a breathing room.

It’s when you start getting jealous over stuff you shouldnt be jealous about. Like him talking to another girl, or smiling to a stranger. 

When you get mad because your friend knew something about him and you didnt.

When he fails to tell you something he did during the day because you feel that you should know everything that had happened, is happening or will happen to him.

When you start checking his messages secretly, trying to see if he’s texting other people.(havent done this before but based on my friends experience…this is never a good thing…guys/girls…dont dont dont dont ever do this)

When you start asking too much questions…the where…the who…and the why.

where did you go today. who did you go with…why didnt you invite me/tell me.

when you constantly remind him “youre mine,” “im your girlfriend/boyfriend,” “I have the right to know first”…and anything similar to that….(it maybe sweet but too much reminding will be annoying).

we all need space, even if we’re in a relationship. there’s still boundaries we need to keep.

Asking too much questions and getting too involved in each others life is not a good thing. We need to respect each others privacy and learn how to trust. 

Trust is the key word. It’s not something you just tell your partner …“I trust you“….it’s an action that is required to keep the relationship strong.

Once you doubt the other person he/she may get tired of you. 

If you break the other person’s trust… you can never gain it back 100%. Even how hard you try, there’s always a part of them that will remember the thing you did in the past…and worry that maybe you’ll do the same thing again.

Love is complicated. Yes, it’s the happiest thing when it enters your life…but you need to take care of it. It’s like a plant you need to water. If you water it too much it will die, if you water it less, it’ll also die. You need to water it just enough to let it grow:)

xoxoxo,

HMA

heymissawesome:)  im erin hynch  i am in grade 7 in collegiate juniour in southafrica:)  its rockin here with the amazing beaches:)  im going to pearson high next year and realy nervouse:)  i’ve got lots of cool friends that help me through the thick timzz:)  but the one that realy gets me through life is bronwyn weeks shes the most amazing person in the world..not to mention and awesome drawer and and an excellent singer with an amazing personallity:) i realy love the life quoets on your blog  and i think that we should all dance our own dance in life and make our own moves and put them together to see the hole thing.   ex oh ex oh   erin hynch:)

thanks for this message erin! it’s so sweet! It’s amazing how I meet a lot of people from different parts of the world through my tumblr. I wish I could visit south africa one day. Goodluck in highschool!:)