Anonymous: Hey Miss Awesome, I need help. I gave him my all. I gave him everything that I could ever have. I loved him with all my heart and he loved me to but even when we were together, we started to drift apart. It has come to my realization that he doesn't really care about me any more, I am just his toy to fool around with when he wants. But yet I still love him. I can not think of life with out him and being with him is all I have ever wanted. I strived to be with him, and threw away everything to be with him for 8 whole months. I lost friends, family, trust, my grades, and a large portion of my sanity to this guy and he is my world. But yet it seems he doesn't love me back any more. Last night he was sneaking out to come and see me, and right outside of my house he got in a car crash. He is fine, he didn't get hurt at all. Was this accident a sign? could him crashing while coming to see me mean that I shouldn't be with him, that the accident was a barrier between us that was a breaking point for m to give up? Or could it mean that him surviving with out a scratch mean that we can make it through anything? I don't know what to do anymore. I have nothing left but him. Is he worth it?
i personally dont believe in “signs” 100% coz sometimes it’s just coincidences.
so you love this guy and you feel that this guy doesnt love you back…that you’re drifting apart? Jusging by what I read, your relationship with this guy is fading away…YOURE FADING AWAY. I mean, you’re relationship with this guy has caused you to lose a lot of things…bad grades, losing touch with friends and families, you are going crazy with this guy, is that even right? is this even a healthy relationship? well we all have our different views on what a healthy relationship is…but in my opinion…a relationship should benefit the two parties. You guys should be bringing each other up…one shouldnt be the cause of the other’s downfall. You have sacrificed so much…lost so much…hurt so much. I think it’s time to think if this guy is really worth everything you give him. You said you “threw away everything to be with him for 8 whole months”…this guy shouldnt even let that happen. he shouldnt make you give up something…or ruin something just so you could be with him. He should be protecting you…should be the one making sure youre happy. Most importantly he should also make sure your relationship with your family is okay.
Im not saying to break up with this guy… I have no right at all to tell you or decide for you. What I want you to do is to think and reflect about your relationship with this guy. If there are more sad moments than happy ones… if you cry more than you laugh…well…if you always cry before you sleep…then it’s time to think if it’s still worth it to continue on. You also have to take care of yourself you know.
Just leave me a message if you need someone to talk to….if there’s updates or anything. Ill be here for you. Coz I know how it feels. Ive been there. I wanted our relationship to work…even if i know he was cheating on me…id just pretend i didnt know. I even fought with my parents…rebelled…i did all the stupid things just to be with this guy. I cried every night..stayed until 3am talking to my bestfriend. That was the ugliest moment of my life. But all is done…that was the past and im glad im over him. im glad i got out of that bad relationship coz I know I’ll go crazy if it lingers a little more.
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Promoting in tumblr means posting a link of the tumblr(being promoted) to your blog. You can do that by choosing “Links” and copy pasting the url of the blog…then publishing it. A lot of people say it really helps your blog to gain more followers because tendency is…when you post a link of a blog…people that are following you will check that blog out and follow it (that’s if they like that blog). I wasnt fond of the whole idea at first but then a lot of my followers have been asking me to do promos. well, their wish is my command. so im promoting on fridays and tuesdays.
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Anonymous: hello, well for a couple years i wasnt sure if i liked girls or not. & its one thing ive never told anyone. i think im bi-sexal because i have been attracted to girls in the past. but i hate when people judge me. & if i told anyone even my bestfriend ive known my whole life i feel like they will not think of me the same & they will not be my friend anymore & then go & tell my whole school. i dont know if i am & that is the problem. i havent done anything with a guuy or a girl. ive had a kiss but nothing more. i just dont know what to do. i hate when people judge me. i change when people say something about me. i try not too, i try & be myself, im getting better but i get bullied alot & i hate it. people dont shut up about so do you know what i should do ?
ugh..judgemental people sucks. it’s the 21st century…i cant believe personal preference still matters. if your friends dont accept you..then theyre not your real friends. if your relationship with them is deep, then you got nothing to worry about. if you do tell them your bisexual, they’ll be a little shocked at first…maybe a little awkward. but if theyre real friends, you’ll get over that awkwardness.
You “think” your bisexual. dont jump into conclusions right away. you might just be attracted physically…like..you find them pretty. ..i really dont think youre immediately bi when you feel that way. I just asked my bi friend. (hahaha i just realized that Im friends with lots of bi/gay people…idk„i love them…they rock!) my friend told me that she knows she’s bi when she started feeling attracted to girls..not in a physical level…but in something more intimate….like she wants to kiss them or more. she said she found out she’s bi when she met this girl…and couldnt stop thinking about her. it creeped her out but at the same time she felt really in loved with her. well idk how that feels. theyre together now.
I accepted her…even if I didnt know she was bi at first. heck it didnt really bother me as long as she acts the same and as long as she doesnt get attracted to me…all is fine.
you’re right, dont change yourself and be yourself. You’ll only get bullied if you let other people bully you. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.
so…try to figure out if you’re really bi or not. and if you really are…well you dont have to tell the whole world right away…theres a right time for everything.
rynryn06: I’m sorry if this would be a bit longer that what you expected to read. But I needed some advice. So here it goes. I’m a lesbian but I haven’t come clean to my family. My parents both have heart problems and I don’t know how to tell them what I am without triggering their heart problem. me and my ex were together for 4 years. she broke up with me on new year's eve ( i know sucks huh?). it was and it still very hard for me to get over her after all this time. anyways my ex has a kid she's turning 8 this year. we've been broken up for about 8 months now. we moved in together and i bought us a condo for me and her and kid to live together. I’ve been loyal and supportive to her. Because she works mostly nights at the hospital and I work in the office on days, I was the one who’ll drop-off and pick-up her kid at school. When she leaves and comes home from work, there’s always I make sure that everything in the house is taken cared of even the food and chores in the house so she could get well rested. we've been through so much. when we were still together, she cheated on me so many times! the first time was she got pregnant and got abortion. 2nd time she cheated with another girl whom she had a night stand years before we met. 3rd and the 4th time where she cheated on me with the same guy that she asked to stay in my house! Where she met the guy less than 24 hrs and the guy asked her to marry him! during the break-up she would call me up if she has to work(she's a nurse) at night and take care of her kid. I don’t live at my condo anymore but she rents it from me. I bought another place and asked my family to move-in with me coz I don’t wanna live alone in the house. At times she would call me up to babysit her kid so i agreed to babysit her kid whenever she needed me. i know it was wrong for me to still see both of them after the break-up coz that didn't help me move-on at all. on june this year, while i was taking care of her kid i saw the camera that i gave and took a peak. i was surprised that she has already moved-on with a man. All the rage and the pain and all the things I wanted to say for the times she broke my heart over and over comes rushing back in. out of anger, I’ve said a lot of things on the phone that I shouldn’t have said and some were heard by her kid. The last time we talked was 2 months ago and that’s the last time I saw her and her kid again. I never told her what and how I really felt and thought of during our hard times especially when she cheated on me. When she cheated on me, I never said a word and because I loved her and her kid and our little family, I guess I put the hurt and the pain aside. I am not the type of person, who gives up easily. I fight for what I want. It takes a lot of me to give up on something on someone. I can’t just throw away all the hard work and time I put into it. I can’t just give up because times are hard, especially if that person means everything to me. When we last talked she said that she had enough. I know she wanted me to come out clean with my parents but I just don’t know how without causing harm to my parents. She misses that feeling of being treated like a “trophy girlfriend.” So I made a letter and but haven’t send it yet and I’m contemplating if I should send it to her or don’t bother at all. In that letter I wrote to let her know what I felt during our relationship. In that letter I told her she made me feel and think that I would never be good enough for her. That as soon she meet another person who’s better than me, she cuts me off effortlessly. That I’ve always felt like as an option to her. I also told her that I had so many reasons why I should break-up with her and leave her for good but I only needed one reason to make me stay and that is I love her and her kid so much. I wanted to get angry at her for leaving me after everything that I’ve done. But I couldn’t because I still love her and want her back but I also know that, I will never be good enough for her no matter what I do. Any advice?
sorry for replying so late.
honestly, I really dont know a good advice to give you. But about the letter, I think you should give it to her.
Like you said, all of your feelings are written down in this letter. It’s better that she knows all of your thoughts. This is one way that the person could understand you. During your relationship, she might have had taken for granted your feelings…taken for granted a lot of things…because you werent able to fully expressed yourself. I think it’s important to stay real in a relationship…if youre mad..be mad… if you’re upset…be upset…but dont hide it all in…express it and talk about it with your other half. when I say talk…i dont mean shout or get mad.. “talk” is to resolve anything that may have caused the negative feelings. Communication is really important.
This girl cheated on you numerous times and yet your still willing to welcome her back in your arms. Just note that you should know your limits too. Im not sayin g that this girl isnt worth the chances that you gave her (who am I to know?)…just remember that you should also give importance to yourself.you have to take care of yourself too. You know what im worried about? that your giving so much effort, bringing your all to the table and getting so much pain and burden in return. I hope this isnt true.
about you not telling your parents. well they are your parents who took care of you and raised you. theyve been there for you every step in your life…the people that have known you the longest. chances are, they already have a clue about your preference and theyre just waiting for you to tell them yourself. My cousin, who’s also a bestfriend, is gay. everybody in the family knows that he’s gay…even the neighbors know. it’s the way he moves and acts…you can sense it. he always says that he’s straight…that he is not gay. he acts so tough when uncle (his father) is in the room. I asked uncle one time if he knows…and he said he does and he told me (in filipino) “wala naman tayong magagawa dyan eh..ganyan na yan..anak ko pa din sya.” —-translation in english “i cant do anything about it…he’s like that…but he’s still my son.” Up until now he hasnt confessed yet…I told him he should but he said he’s afraid. I even told him that the family will accept him no matter what. im just hoping he’ll listen.
anyways… the letter…give it to her. you dont have that much to lose when you give that letter right. you have to express yourself.same with your parents…you also have to express what you feel…express the real you. but do it in a subtle way…heart problems remember?
sorry im not able to help that much. just know that im here if you just want to open up:)) so come by anytime and just leave me a message.
itsnicolaas: hey anne:) first time here, but here goes. my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost seven months now, and we're really happy together. there is one snag though, well it bothers me. she usually says that she misses other guys that are really good friends of mine and she would call them just to hear how it's going. maybe it's just me being paranoid or something , but i don't like it. i would appreciate your opinion on this matter, and i'm open to any advice you might bestow on me:)
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I think it would be a great idea to tell your gf how you feel. tell her that you’re uncomfortable of what she’s doing. Maybe she doesnt know that this is making you feel upset.
Im still thinking of reasons why she’s doing this. Well, maybe she just really miss them as a friend. Maybe she’s doing this on purpose to get your attention. or she’s flirting with them(hopefully not this last one).
whatever reason, it’s best if she knows your views on the whole situation. this is going to avoid misunderstandings and it’s going to help you guys open up with each other.
peeps92 from tumblr asked me this question. I believe that it all depends with the couple. Ive heard a lot of successful long distance relationships so yeah i think it works. but it doesnt apply to everyone.
SO GUYS…do you think long distance relationships can work?
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psh.. i know I didnt help much:) just stop by my blog if something comes up. I may be a bad when it comes to giving out advice…but I am a good listener. feel free to rant. sometimes people just need an outlet to their emotions..it’s really hard keeping it all in you know. sometimes you just want to express everything you feel..anger happiness sorrow…sometimes you dont want to be known and stay anonymous. my blog is here for you.
Anonymous: No im acutally gunna start this year. im a girl, just emotionally, and no one in particuallr, just people who are mean, i mean i dont know for sure, but trust me its gunna happen. im like different, you know i dress different sometimes, i enjoy different things, i wanna join odd clubs and stuff like that but my sister told me ill get bullied if i do so. i dont wanna change my persona just so mean ass bastards will leave me alone. How were your HS years? and how will i not get bullied?!?!
highschool is different from middle school so you’ll never know right?
dont change yourself because other people tell you to do so. If you love yourself and proud of who you are as a person…who cares about those judgmental people! I guess they’re also insecure of themselves because instead of focusing their energy with other important stuff … they focus on you. They’re not contented of what they have in their life and for them to feel better about themselves, they use ways like putting other people down so they could raise their self esteems ups. you know the best way to “counter” them is to just ignore them completely. Act like you dont care…act like you’re not affected…heck…dont get affected at all by those immature kids! (if ever you encounter them). when I was in highschool…well here in california (I moved here during my highschool…originally from the philippines)…I got laughed at…(somewhat bullied)…I was a complete noob…fresh on the block. it was a completely new scenario, new culture, new people! i didnt have friends and I remember wishing everyday that all of what was happening that time was a dream. I remember when I was in 10th grade.. I was sitting beside this guy…he’s those kinds of guys that have “swag”…kind of the “class clown” too. He was nice to me, I think. Sometimes he would use certain “LA” terms…”slangs”…i wasnt well informed on the urbandictionary so whenever I was thrown certain words..i’ll just nod my head…or smile. he’d laugh coz he knows i dont know what he means…and I didnt care. let him laugh and swallow air…he’ll be farting all the way home. hahaha! I prioritize things that are more important…I didnt have time to entertain “immaturity.”
As time pass I made friends too and I got used to everything in LA. Loving life here and im still not caring about certain stuff.
btw! if there’s clubs (odd clubs) in school that you like to join…join them! coz surely you’ll meet people that share the same interests as you. You can deal with all the highschool drama better if you got friends that back you up. A lion can eat up a hyena.. but when they come in a big group… hahaha the lion cant stand a chance.
highschool is just 4 years. and then there’s college…which is a different story. lesser drama and stress socially…more drama and stress academically.
btw. I dress differently too. I got my own style. my own signature in fashion. its what makes me me…unique.